Twin Dad, Jason Reams, on how it is raising a singleton plus twins
Twin dad, Jason Reams, was already a dad to a boy when he and his wife got the news that they were expecting fraternal twin girls. Surprising for some Jason says that twins are no more trouble than singletons.
We needed to know more, and are so excited he agreed to answer our questions about twin parenthood, twin myths, and what has been the most surprising about having twins.
WHO ARE YOU AND WHAT DO YOU DO?
My name is Jason and I am a Regional Service Manager for a large corporation dealing with critical power. I oversee a group of 18 guys that are spread out over 13 states. I have the luxury of working from home so I get to see the twins often. They aren't quite in school yet so I get them in my office regularly.
WHAT FASCINATES YOU THE MOST ABOUT TWINS (ESPECIALLY YOUR OWN)?
I think the thing that fascinates me the most is just how alike and different they are at the same time. We have fraternal twin girls that are almost 3 years old. They both have personalities on the opposite ends of the spectrum from each other but at the same time they enjoy doing the same things together and playing together.
WHAT WAS THE BIGGEST FEAR YOU HAD GOING INTO BEING A TWIN DAD?
My biggest fear? How are we going to do this?
We have a singleton as well who was 3 when the twins were born. The shock set in pretty quickly that yes this is actually happening and there is no turning back.
Our son was a very high maintenance baby. When we learned we were having twins, I thought oh no, its going to be the same as him only twice as bad. The twins have been a breeze to deal with so all the fears were for nothing.
WHAT HAS SURPRISED YOU THE MOST ABOUT YOUR TWINS?
Honestly, it has to be how fast they have grown. I feel like it was only a week ago we were in the hospital. They are about to turn 3 and I am amazed at how fast the time has flown by. The rate at which they have grown and progressed through their milestones together is also pretty amazing.
WHAT IS THE NUMBER ONE MYTH ABOUT HAVING TWINS YOU WOULD LIKE TO DEBUNK?
The biggest myth, I feel, is the "oh you must have your hands full." I honestly cringe every time someone walks by in a store or a restaurant and says that.
Twins are a lot of work but all kids are. Even singletons can be a lot of work. We had one too.
It is no different than any other family of 3 kids. You adapt and grow as a parent and it becomes second nature. So no we do not have our hands full.
IS THERE ANY ADVICE ABOUT HAVING TWINS YOU WISH YOU HAD BEEN GIVEN?
Don't let the moments slip by because they grow up extremely fast. You can get so caught up in your daily routines that you miss out on the sweet little things the twins are doing for each other. I know i'm going to blink and they will be off to college.
Thank you, Jason. We really appreciate your twin life insights and inspired by you and your wife's positive outlook.
We love getting to know to know twin parents and their journey, and this is our latest interview in our twin parent series (check out the others, including with the twin mom behind Simple Chic Brunette here and twin mom Darlene Brisse here).
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